“If you understand yourself you are illuminated.
If you overcome others you are powerful.
If you overcome yourself you have strength.
If you know how to be satisfied you are rich.
If you can act with vigor, you have a will.
If you don’t lose your objectives you can be long-lasting.
If you die without loss, you are eternal.”
We all have different relationships, memories, and feelings associated with our mothers. This is a wonderful definition of my mother. Happy Mother’s Day to all!
“When God Created Mothers”
When the Good Lord was creating mothers, He was into His sixth day of “overtime” when the angel appeared and said. “You’re doing a lot of fiddling around on this one.”
And God said, “Have you read the specs on this order?” She has to be completely washable, but not plastic. Have 180 moveable parts…all replaceable. Run on black coffee and leftovers. Have a lap that disappears when she stands up. A kiss that can cure anything from a broken leg to a disappointed love affair. And six pairs of hands.”
The angel shook her head slowly and said. “Six pairs of hands…. no way.”
It’s not the hands that are causing me problems,” God remarked, “it’s the three pairs of eyes that mothers have to have.”
That’s on the standard model?” asked the angel. God nodded.
One pair that sees through closed doors when she asks, ‘What are you kids doing in there?’ when she already knows. Another here in the back of her head that sees what she shouldn’t but what she has to know, and of course the ones here in front that can look at a child when he goofs up and say. ‘I understand and I love you’ without so much as uttering a word.”
God,” said the angel touching his sleeve gently, “Get some rest tomorrow….”
I can’t,” said God, “I’m so close to creating something so close to myself. Already I have one who heals herself when she is sick…can feed a family of six on one pound of hamburger…and can get a nine year old to stand under a shower.”
The angel circled the model of a mother very slowly. “It’s too soft,” she sighed.
But tough!” said God excitedly. “You can imagine what this mother can do or endure.”
Can it think?”
Not only can it think, but it can reason and compromise,” said the Creator.
Finally, the angel bent over and ran her finger across the cheek.
There’s a leak,” she pronounced. “I told You that You were trying to put too much into this model.”
It’s not a leak,” said the Lord, “It’s a tear.”
What’s it for?”
It’s for joy, sadness, disappointment, pain, loneliness, and pride.”
You are a genius, ” said the angel.
Somberly, God said, “I didn’t put it there.”
“He who becomes the slave of habit,
who follows the same routes every day,
who never changes pace,
who does not risk and change the color of his clothes,
who does not speak and does not experience,
He or she who shuns passion,
who prefers black on white,
dotting ones “it’s” rather than a bundle of emotions, the kind that make your eyes glimmer,
that turn a yawn into a smile,
that make the heart pound in the face of mistakes and feelings,
He or she who does not turn things topsy-turvy,
who is unhappy at work,
who does not risk certainty for uncertainty,
to thus follow a dream,
those who do not forego sound advice at least once in their lives,
He who does not travel, who does not read,
who does not listen to music,
who does not find grace in himself,
she who does not find grace in herself,
He who slowly destroys his own self-esteem,
who does not allow himself to be helped,
who spends days on end complaining about his own bad luck, about the rain that never stops,
He or she who abandon a project before starting it, who fail to ask questions on subjects he doesn’t know, he or she who don’t reply when they are asked something they do know,
Let’s try and avoid death in small doses,
reminding oneself that being alive requires an effort far greater than the simple fact of breathing.
Only a burning patience will lead
to the attainment of a splendid happiness.”
“No matter how careful you are, there’s going to be the sense you missed something, the collapsed feeling under your skin that you didn’t experience it all. There’s that fallen heart feeling that you rushed right through the moments where you should’ve been paying attention.
Well, get used to that feeling. That’s how your whole life will feel some day.
This is all practice.”
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
I raise the white flag to surrender; as I finally make peace with my body, my face, my heart, my soul. My adolescent years were riddled with struggle, self-doubt, and internal warfare. A battle that ended with the shocking discovery that I was the enemy.
I was constantly plagued by an internal dialogue; you’re not pretty enough, smart enough, or thin enough.
The repetitive chatter in my brain was a perpetual nightmare that played out every night and into the next day. I reluctantly succumbed to my ego and sought approval in all the wrong places.
I constantly searched for answers to stop the madness, but my peace came with a price. Although I couldn’t turn back time, I received the GIFT of wisdom.
I finally came to realize my painful struggle to fit in was crucial for growth as I discovered the true meaning of the Anais Nin quote:
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
And just like the flower, It’s beauty was well worth the wait.
“The best thing to give to your enemy is forgiveness; to an opponent, tolerance; to a friend, your heart; to your child, a good example; to a father, deference; to your mother, conduct that will make her proud of you; to yourself, respect; to all others, charity.”
A balanced inner calmness radiates from a peaceful center. It neither craves others’ approval nor rejects others’ presence. It neither pulls towards nor pushes away. It has a reverent attitude towards life and all its inhabitants.
“When we live each day with kindness, compassion, and communicative love, there is no business left unfinished. There are no regrets or words we should have said, but didn’t. There is no need for closure or forgiveness or apology of any kind.”
“Health is the greatest possession. Contentment is the greatest treasure. Confidence is the greatest friend.”
Wow, I love this quote! We have this one life and it’s our job to make the most of each and every day. How do you rate these three area’s of your life that are so important in regards to your happiness and quality of life?
- Health- Take a moment and write down two goals at the beginning of each week that can improve your health. Do you eat out too often, consume too many alcoholic beverages, sit too much? The list goes on and on. We all have areas of our life we can improve on, and your health should be number one on the list. Try walking on your lunch hour, replacing a fast food meal with a home cooked meal, or perhaps replacing artificial sugar with honey. There are endless opportunities each week to help improve your health by simply setting small goals, making small changes, and committing to them.
2. Contentment – What is contentment? Wikipedia defines contentment as:
Contentment is a mental or emotional state of satisfaction maybe drawn from being at ease in one’s situation, body and mind. Colloquially speaking, contentment could be a state of having accepted one’s situation and is a milder and more tentative form of happiness.
What areas of your life can you improve to bring about more contentment? Analyze your work and home situation and determine areas that need improvement. Small changes can sometimes make a tremendous difference in your quality of life. Practice gratitude each morning. Be thankful for having a roof over your head, food to eat, and loved ones. There are many people in this world praying for what you have at this very moment. Lose the act of comparison. Have you heard the quote “comparison is the thief of joy?” You’ll never be content by comparing yourself to others. How can you adjust your attitude at work and at home to bring about contentment? Take the focus off yourself and do small things for others this week and you may be surprised at how good you feel.
3. Self confidence How can you improve your self-confidence? Take care of your appearance. Self confidence starts with feeling good about yourself. Make it a priority to take care of your body with exercise and healthy food choices, wear clothes you love, and practice daily meditation. Consider listening to positive affirmations on a daily basis. Your inner dialogue is a key to self confidence and contentment. What do you say to yourself each day?
Remember we have this one life……
Have you ever been locked in a bathroom? It happened to me last week and I was surprised at the level of panic I felt when I couldn’t open the door. I was in a small 24 hour fitness facility. It was early morning and the gym was quiet. I remember seeing a few people on the treadmills as I walked to the group fitness room to set up for my class.
I had already consumed over 24 oz of lemon water and two cups of coffee, so needless to say my first stop was the bathroom.
When I started to leave the restroom , I quickly turned the lever lock to open the door and it wouldn’t budge! I immediately felt a sense of panic, dread, and disbelief. I started beating on the door to get someone’s attention, but had no luck.
Then I started thinking…..What am I going to do??
Where was MacGyver when I needed him? If I only had some chewing gym, a paper clip or maybe a Swiss Army Knife, surely I could get out of this situation.
The lock looked like one of the privacy indicator deadbolt locks. It had a lever that when you turn it to the right it locks the door and shows “occupied” on the outside of the door.
The door was very solid with no play in it, so I immediately tried to push the lock with all my might to try to force it open. It wouldn’t budge and to make matters worse:
- I had no cell phone – I had left it in the group fitness room
- The music in the gym was playing extremely loud- What if no one could hear me???
- There were only a few people in the club
- I was at the end of the hall where very few people go unless they are going to that particular bathroom (which now that I was locked inside- showed occupied on the other side)
I continued to bang on the door and put all my weight up against it as I relentlessly tried to open the lock. NO LUCK! Suddenly I started to feel a bit claustrophobic.
Why did this have to happen to me????
After yelling and banging on the door for quite sometime, I finally heard someone come up and ask me if I was locked in, and needless to say, I was relieved! He told me he would make a phone call and get someone there to get me out.
And believe it or not, I got out in time to teach my class!
This made me wonder about other situations like this. I later found out this happened to someone else at this same club and they were locked in the bathroom for a couple of hours! I heard the owner ended up giving him some free gym time for his pain and suffering. It’s definitely a frightening experience especially if there are no windows and you are in an isolated place. And with my luck, I’m sure it could happen again. Therefore, I did some research and found out this actually happens quite often. One man got locked in a Burger King bathroom
An Oregon man is suing Burger King for backing out of a ‘meals for life’ deal.
Curtis Brooner says the fast food giant offered the deal because he got locked in the bathroom for more than an hour at a restaurant in Wood Village last month.
Brooner’s attorney Michael Fuller told KATU that his client went to pull the door and it wouldn’t open.
I did some additional research and did not find any useful information on how to get out when you’re locked on the inside of a bathroom without anything you could use as a tool to pick the lock. Therefore, I’ve vowed to avoid public bathrooms as much as possible and only use bathrooms that have multiple stalls with no locks on the exit door.